Tuesday, April 5, 2011

Learned Behavior

I'm a firm believer that kids picked up bad habits from other kids.

Who cares if I let a curse word slip if the kid at the playground has a complete and utter meltdown because his Mom told him no.

My kid won't remember the f bomb or repeat it but she will repeat a nuclear temper tantrum.

Especially lately.

Normally, Roo is a great child.

Angelic even!

Okay, maybe not angelic... but she is a great kid. She knows her manners, is polite and sleeps like a champ.

But she's never had these type of meltdowns until she started hanging around her cousin.

Her cousin is princess of all epic bad behavior.

And Roo is picking up all these bad habits and it's turning my wonderful child into a demon.

And since this kid is Roo's cousin, I can't exactly keep them apart.

I'm not really sure what to do about the situation.

I scold Roo. I wag my finger at her. I give her positive encouragement. I take her away from her cousin when she starts screaming.

It's so frustrating and exhausting at the same time.

She doesn't act out all day long, it's not that dramatic but when it does happen: watch out.

I want my sweet girl to come back.

Any suggestions on how I can prevent more foot stomping from occurring?


Jessica said...

How old is Roo? I noticed my son's tantrums came out of NO WHERE when he was around 2 years old. For the most part, he is a very well behaved child, but when he doesn't nap it totally throws him off and he can instantly turn into a screaming banshee.

We introduced a naughty corner and when my son has a tantrum, I make him stand with his nose in the corner. He HATES it to say the least. Sadly, he's been spending a lot more time there lately. I am starting to believe everyone who told me 3 is FAR WOSE than 2 (he'll be 3 in a few weeks)!

Good luck! Let me know what works for you!

Matt and Lauren said...

Specific to the situation with the cousin- I always tell my kids, "Bobby can do that but you cannot". I am your mommy and you will do what I say- I am not Bobby's mommy." Seems to work.