The other day we were at a local bookstore and Roo was playing with a little boy while Turtle had made it her mission to pull all the books off the lower shelves.
While Roo and this boy were playing, Turtle had walked over to them and wanted to join in. At that moment, the boy threw a toy and it skimmed past her little head and my instincts kicked in and I told him to be careful that there was a little baby playing and we didn't want to hit her.
I didn't yell but I wasn't soft. I was firm, but gentle (does that make sense?) in my statement.
They continued playing, as kids often do, and not another toy was thrown.
Then Roo started misbehaving (I call it showing off) and I was firm with her. When she did it again, I told the boy that she could no longer play because she wasn't listening to her Mommy.
So he went off and while Roo pouted in a chair, I started picking up all the destruction Turtle had caused.
Then the boys Mom came around the corner and gave me a look.
You know, the look.
She didn't say anything to me but you could tell she had heard me talk to her son and I had the feeling she wasn't happy about it.
She and the boy disappeared before anything could be said (if there was anything to be said) and I didn't give it another thought until this morning when I saw an article from Baby Center regarding disciplining someones child and it got me thinking.
Was I in the wrong to say something to this child? Should I have tracked down the mother first and made sure it was okay to say something in the first place?
I must admit, I do say a lot to other people's children.
No, don't step on Turtle's hands. No, don't push. No, don't shove. No, we don't throw dirt at people.
I'm never harsh (well, I was once but I learned my lesson). I am just firm.
And the funny thing is, what would I do if I was in that lady's shoes?
Well, now that I stop and think about it I would probably approach and ask, find out what Roo did wrong and tell her myself to behave and then I'd apologize to her for Roo's bad behavior.
Tell me, am I wrong?
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