I have a friend that I've had for over ten years. We've gone through everything together. We've been room-mates, employees, partners in crime.
We've had as much ups as we have downs.
Right now, we're down.
For the stupidest reason.
And this happens at least once a year, maybe twice if we're lucky. Something, somewhere will happen and our dominant personalities (often referred to as stubbornness), will cause the world to slip off its axis and we hate each other for a few weeks before returning to our happy go-lucky relationship.
Apparently it's time for us to stop talking to one another.
Because of a truck.
A little background is that my friend is planning her wedding and she's "disappointed" because my husband sold his prized possession to purchase his truck instead of me buying my bridesmaids dress.
My husband and I have had a ROUGH two years. So when my husband asks if he can sell his most favorite thing to buy another most favorite thing, I think about all the stress and crap he's been through lately and I say yes.
I know that I need to purchase a bridesmaid dress and have arranged to pay for it by using layaway since I had some medical bills come up and diapers to purchase.
But my friend sees this as the biggest disappointment since the Titanic sank. Maybe because I didn't demand my husband buy my dress, instead allowing him to purchase a truck he's coveted since he was a child.
Maybe not?
I have no clue what the problem really is.
She won't talk to me.
She's ignored all my phone calls, all my texts, my emails. She's jumped to conclusions because of who knows. This blog post is probably hammering the last nail in the coffin, but I had to say something. I had to post this because it's eating away at me. This ridiculous fight is in the back of my head all day. It's distracting me from my work, my life, my everything.
And I should be used to this. I should know better than to give a fuck, because she doesn't.
She doesn't care to call and ask me what's up. She doesn't care to call me and tell me that she think I'm being stupid. She doesn't care to do any of this, not even call and question the health of her god-child.
She does nothing.
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A) politely ask her if you can not be in the wedding because you cannot afford the dress
B) most of the time if the bride really wants one of her friends in her wedding and the bridesmaid just cannot afford the dress then the bride will pay for it or help pay for it...I'm just saying...
Hope you get things worked out soon. It's no fun fighting with the bff's.
Curse of the bridezilla? Sometimes when I'm stressed I cannot seem the other's point of view, and trust me I was nothing short of a monster bride while planning my wedding. If everything didn't go according to plan it was.the.end.of.the.world - literally. Maybe she's the same way?
Either way, I hope she gets over it and realize that a dress is really a small thing in life to get upset over. Um, be upset about our economy, upset for an illness, upset because of something else other than a damn dress. That's just what it is.
I wish someone had yelled that at me when I was planning my wedding. No, it took years later plus a baby to realize that it's not worth sweating the small stuff in life.
I was a total C*nt before I got married, but I was also pregnant so that might have had something to do with it.
How expensive is this dress that it's comparable to the value of a truck??? If she is planning a huge gala event? If so, she must have money, and can pay for the dress.
Then again, maybe its not really about the dress, if you two are the on again/off again sort, it might just be bringing up alot of old wounds. You guys might need to hug it out.
HUGS, It stinks when you you are fighting with a friend.
Sounds like you are doing what you can by putting it on layaway. If you can't afford to be part of it (I am sure more expenses will come with it) You can just explain nicely to her. It is an honor to be part of it, but you shouldn't have to go bankrupt over it.
I think you did the right thing saying yes to Hubby. He earned it.
Good luck!
It sounds like you did the right thing AND you understand what marriage is about. Maybe your friend should try being a bit more understanding with you. She may end up in the same situation one day where her husband may buy something he covets instead of a dress.
Aren't there more important things to fight about?
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