Tuesday, December 9, 2008

Mommy is having a temper tantrum

For the past four days Miss Roo has had an attitude.

The kind of attitude that reminds me of myself when I was 13 and knew everything.

Every time I take her somewhere, she refuses to sit still. I place her in the shopping cart and within three minutes, she's squirming and fussing and yanking on the safety strap. After she starts screaming, I give up and take her out to hold her on my hip. After struggling to get out of my arms for another five, I put her down and she runs away as fast as her chubby little legs can carry her.

So instead of getting all the things on my list or browsing the aisles, I'm chasing a wobbly toddler who delights in ripping everything she shouldn't be playing with off the shelves. The cart, my list and my sanity are totally forgotten as I run around Target picking up the mess my destructive little doodlebug has created.

All of these trips end with me toting her outside while she SCREAMS her head off. Even though I can't decipher her screams, I'm pretty sure that she's telling everyone in hearing-range that I am the devil.

Now, I'm not sure how to deal with this. I don't want to avoid stores b/c I'm afraid when I do take her to a store, she'll act like a brat. I do want her to behave like she did four days prior. Four days prior I could place her in a shopping cart, whirl through the store and get out to the truck before she could protest.

Now, not so much.

Now I'm frustrated and get anxious just thinking about going to the grocery store. I hate feeling this way. I don't want my stomach to knot up just thinking about going shopping or even to the bookstore.

I want my angel back!!!

Any suggestions?


Erika said...

You might just have to strap her in and let her scream. That, or leave her at home for a few months. There have been plenty of times my boys have screamed as I've walked down the aisles gritting my teeth.

tamara said...

This might horrify you, but it is the only thing that worked for me - the wooden spoon, lovingly nicknamed "The Spanker." I carried it around with me everywhere I went during both trips through toddlerhood. I didn't really have to use it very much - it was more the intimidation factor. Good luck. And this makes me even more glad I had my tubes tied after number two!!

Teti Family said...

So I have a 17 mon old, Gianna, and she has recently turned into a devil as well. She was the little babydoll that would smile at everyone, not now! She throws herself into fits of rage and smacks her head off of anything close to her. She gives herself fat lips and bruises on the head! She hits her older brother and recently started saying "shit" thanks to my brother. She will run around the house from one thing to next ransaking the place, I mean faster then I could pick the stuff up!
And Ive tried that whole ignoring thing, didnt work for me. She'd scream and rave for hours if I let her. And on most days I dont have the heart to the torment the grocers so I wait for my husband to get home and send him.
I dont spank but Ive been considering it these days. Maybe its just the a stage our girls are having. Maybe its from us spoiling. Anyway if you figure out a cure, plz be a gem and share. In the meanwhile you are not alone! Hang in there