Yesterday, during a rather hectic moment full of tamper tantrums, a stressed out Mommy, a busy Daddy and barking dogs I found an article in an old Parents magazine that gave us clarity.
It was titled "Memo to Mommy" and it was about a few wise words of wisdom from your toddler. During that moment, when I was ready to pull my hair out and run screaming from the room, it helped me calm down and realize that it's the little things in life that matter the most.
- "Stop freaking out about the mess! There's always time to clean- but how often do we get to make mud pies?
- Love me, even when I'm naughty I'll only be this age once.
- Be patient. I do everything for a reason, but I don't know enough words yet to give you an explanation.
- Let me do it. I know you can do it faster and better, but sometimes experience is the best teacher.
- Don't expect too much of me. I want to do what you ask and make you happy, but I'm still little.
- Don't try to reason with me when I'm having a tantrum. Trust me- I can't hear you over my screaming.
- Keep your promises. It's all about trust. When I'm a teenager, you'll understand why it's so important.
- Don't keep asking me if I've been good. I'm not even sure what that means, but if I was bad I'd never admit it!
- Don't let me think that you're perfect. I feel a lot better knowing I'm not the only one who makes mistakes sometimes.
- Set limits. I can't actually eat a whole box of cookies- I just want to see if I'd get away with it."
When I saw this article I tore it out and pasted it to my wall, so if I ever experience a day like yesterday again (please no), then I could remember these words of wisdom and calm down!!
(The list above was found in the September 2008 issue of Parents Magazine. I did not write the list and make no claim to it).
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