Today while doing a million things at once, I stumbled upon a blog post from Hands Free Mama called The Important Thing About Yelling.
I found the post on Pinterest from a friend's board and clicked because I am guilty as charged of yelling at my kids.
Before I even read the post, I was thinking about all those times I've snapped at my children for being... well, for being children.
I've snapped at them for stupid reasons (as well as perfectly reasonable ones) and when I think about why I snapped at them, how I snapped at them... I get embarrassed. I get sad. I cry...
I mean, come the fuck on, they are children. They honestly do not know better. I'm an adult, I KNOW BETTER!
I never wanted to be a mother that yelled. Hell, I don't want to be a person that yells. It takes up too much time and energy and I'd rather be playing with my girls or searching for ladybugs with them.
I have so many more important memories to make other than yelling at a little girl over the fact that she wants to dance in the bathroom instead of brush her teeth.
Can't blame her, dancing is fun.
Reading the post, I felt the tears welling up in my eyes because I am her.
I AM HER.
I yell for stupid reasons and I yell because I'm frustrated with ME not THEM.
I take out my frustrations on them because I am unhappy with myself.
My life isn't all roses and I'll admit that it sucks sometimes... a lot of the time, actually. But the bright spot in my life never changes: Them.
My jobs isn't always great. My finances are a wreck. I am plagued with an illness that wipes me out.
I could go on and on... but the thing is, are these excuses as to why it's okay for me to yell at my children?
My babies are just kids, just three and six years of age how in the world can they possible know that using my good bowls for food for their chicken is a bad idea? Are their lives any better because I rush them all over the place so I can make sure life is in perfect running order? Why should I get frustrated because my kid needs to stop and examine the world around her?
What does it matter if I let her?
What does it do if I stop and smell the roses with her?
Both of us would only benefit from it.
I've decided to make a change. I'm making a commitment to myself to stop the yelling in every aspect of my life.
I could use the break and I'm sure those around me could too.
A Closer Look
2 days ago